how to comfort a girl

how to comfort a girl

 

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It's not always easy to comfort an upset girl. She might need a hug, some affection, or just some alone time. How do you know what you could do to help her feel better and avoid making things worse? Read this article to learn how to act in these situations.

 

 

 

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Approach it

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Analyze the situation. Why is she upset? Did something horrible happen like the loss of a loved one or something a little more manageable like a fight with a friend? Knowing what the problem is can help you figure out the best way to comfort her. If someone died, don't try to make her laugh or distract her by telling her a ridiculous story, but if she just had a fight with someone, you might take a lighter approach. Don't say it's nothing serious if it is, because she might get even angrier.

The reasons that can put it in this state are all different. The more you know about the situation, the better you will know how to comfort her.

 

 

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Try to figure out what she wants. This is very important, because if she says, "I would like to be left alone", she probably really needs some time alone with herself. So you shouldn't bother him any longer. However, if she says that, but you feel it's not true, use your judgment. If you know her well, you'll know if she's being honest or if she's saying this so as not to bother you.

Does she often get angry, or is this the first time you've seen her in this state? If it's not the first time, remember what you've already done to comfort her and try the same technique again if it worked.

Ask her if she would like to talk about it with you. Find out if she would like to discuss the situation or if she just wants moral support.

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Give him some affection. Know that most girls love a hug or a little affection when they're upset. This is especially true if you're in a relationship with her or if you're close and she feels you won't dare to make the first move. On the other hand, some girls don't seek out hugs at all when they're angry, and that's okay too. If you're around her, just put your arm around her or touch her shoulder, hand, or knee to let her know you're there for her.

If she's upset, she'll need to feel like you're there for her. Giving her a little affection will comfort her.

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Bring her a handkerchief, a cup of tea, a comfy duvet, or anything else to make her feel more comfortable.

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Help her feel better

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Let her express herself. She probably needs to talk if she told you she doesn't want to be alone. So let her cry, talk, and even bang her furniture if she needs to let off steam. Do not try to stop him and instead offer concrete solutions, ask him questions or try to better understand what is happening. If she's still upset, it's because she hasn't digested the situation yet.

Do not offer a hundred solutions without knowing the situation. If she wants your opinion, she will ask you. For now, let her do the talking.

Even if you know exactly what to do, wait to tell her.

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Have a good listen. If she's upset, she's probably hoping you can just listen to her. She didn't call you to tell her about your life, she wants to be listened to. So let her talk without interrupting to ask questions or give your opinion. Make eye contact and make small comments like, "I know what you're going through is difficult..." to let him know you've been paying attention. Let her talk and don't interrupt her.

You can nod your head to show her that you're listening carefully, but don't overdo it, or she might think you're faking it.

Avoid distractions. Put your phone away, stay focused on it, and don't look around. Don't make her feel like you'd rather be somewhere else.

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Don't try to minimize his problems. If you want her to feel better, don't say things like, "It's not the end of the world" or "It's going to be okay..." She may actually be upset for some reason. not so serious, like a bad mark in an exam or a breakup with a boy she has only known for a few weeks, but do not tell her, because you will only make the situation worse. Let her experience her anger, let her talk about her feelings, and don't tell her it's nothing serious.

You might think you'd help her by putting things into perspective, but you might make the situation worse and she might stop talking to you.

She wants you to support her, she doesn't want to have your own opinion.

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Ask him if there is anything you can do to help him. When she's finished explaining the whole situation to you, offer to help her out to make her feel better. The situation may be concrete enough that you can do something about it, whether it's helping her confront her auto insurer, helping her find a friend, or even fixing something for her so she don't have to spend any money. You may also have to accompany him in an unpleasant situation to offer him moral support. She might have to show up alone, but knowing that you'll be waiting for her at the exit might reassure her.

Just offering to help her will show her that you care about her and are willing to help her. She will feel better then.

She probably feels alone and lost. Offering to help her will allow her to feel better loved and well cared for.

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Don't say you know exactly how she feels. She wants you to listen to her, not act like you know what she's going through. If one of these grandparents is deceased and you went through the same situation, you could mention it quickly since the situation is very specific, but in general, do not try to compare yourself, because you will give the impression of wanting draw attention to you. Focus on her. If she's going through a breakup, don't compare her three-year relationship with your three-month relationship, she'll rightly tell you that "it's not the same thing!" »

Instead, say something like, "I can't imagine what you're going through" or "I can't know how you feel..." These statements will be true most of the time and she'll feel like her feelings will be justified.

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Tell her that it makes you sad to see her in this state. It's simple and friendly. Say "I'm sorry you had to go through this" or "I'm sorry you had to go through such a difficult situation." Even if it's not your fault, these phrases will show him that you are affected by the situation and that you would like things to turn out differently. She'll probably feel a little better, even if there's not much you can do.

She might say, “It's not your fault! You might then say, "I know, but I still feel bad." She will feel that you are on her side.

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Keep comforting her

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Be there for her. You may not be able to help her, you may not be able to say much, and you may not be able to make a change to improve the situation. If she has had bad news, the thing to do is to be with her and let her know that she is not alone. If you were planning on going out this weekend, try canceling your plans to spend more time with her, and if she has something to do, offer to go with her. In some situations, the only thing to do is to volunteer your time and presence. You can't comfort her and then tell her you have to go away and disappear for a few days, you'll only make things worse.

Show her that she is your priority. You might be preoccupied with other things, but make sure you're always there for her.

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Change his mind. She may not want to spend too much time alone after these events. If you can, take her out as much as you can. Even if she doesn't feel like socializing, just getting outside and breathing some fresh air will help her feel better and make her forget about her problems, even if it's only for a few hours. Here's what you could try.

Invite her to go see a comedy. A light movie will make her laugh and she will feel better for a little while.

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Invite her to dinner, go for a coffee or go for an ice cream. A simple outing will help her feel better. If she's upset, she might forget to eat and take care of herself. Avoid alcoholic beverages, because if she's still upset, alcohol won't be a solution.

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Invite her to go for a walk. Getting some exercise and breathing in the fresh air might help her clear her mind and feel better about it.

Avoid inviting her to events where there will be a lot of people, as she may not feel comfortable and want to confront people.

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Do simple tasks for her. She may feel so upset that she can't cope with her daily life. Bring her a cup of coffee or cook her lunch if needed, offer to clean her room if she's out of control, and do her laundry if necessary. If she's upset in class and can't concentrate, take notes for her. If she has to put gas in her car, do it for her. These little things shouldn't take much effort and will help her feel less overwhelmed.

However, don't let her take advantage of you. However, doing a few simple tasks can make a big difference in his life.

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Take care of her. This is an important step in comforting a young girl. Even when you're done chatting, offer your support. Make sure to call, text, visit, and see each other regularly. You don't have to push too hard asking her if she's okay every hour, but you could write to her once in a while to show her you care.

Sending her a funny text or a funny YouTube video might make her laugh and make her feel special.

Be creative. Send her a card or a bouquet of sunflowers. Show her you care, even a few days after the event.

Let her know you're thinking of her. If she wants you to leave her alone, avoid coming back to the subject every hour. A simple little message to show her that you care about her will have a lot more impact.

Advice

Tell her that she is your princess and that you love her more than anyone else.

Talk to him softly.

Give him a hug. She will feel much better.

Don't talk to her about other girls you think are beautiful.

It's a flower, treat it as such.

Tell her she's beautiful even when she's not and kiss her on the cheek.

Use other methods if you're not a boy and still have trouble understanding girls' emotions.