How to break up a couple

How to break up a couple

 

In this article: Sowing the seeds of doubt  Make the breakup inevitable Make the new relationship last  Related articles

Although breaking up is a dangerous business, if you think you're really meant for someone dating someone else, then it's worth a shot. To break up a relationship, you must proceed with caution by first planting the seeds of doubt before making the breakup inevitable.

 

 

 

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Sowing the seeds of doubt

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Don't tell anyone about your plans. Although you might think there's nothing wrong with breaking up the person you love and his/her partner if both of you are happy, the world doesn't see it that way. So, for now, don't tell anyone else that you are planning on doing this, otherwise the couple may find out and other people may try to get in your way.

If that's your goal, make sure you're absolutely sure it's a good thing. If the breakup is caused by an outside force (you) and not a natural problem in the relationship, the couple may still harbor feelings that may grow stronger over time.

 

 

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Become the confidant of the person you want to be with. If you want to separate the man or woman of your dreams from his (her) partner, then, like Iago in Othello (but much less torturous), you must interfere in the couple, slowly but surely. To do this, you need to get the person you love to trust you and start opening up to you. Be understanding, pleasant and sympathetic, show that you are a good listener . At first, the person may not open up to you about their relationship, but that time will come.

Just a word of warning: there's a difference between being the confidante of the person you love and falling into the "friend zone" with that person. Make sure you don't get too buddy-buddy or become friends with the person or they'll never be able to see you as a potential romantic partner.

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Let the person open up about the flaws in their relationship. The worst thing you can do is openly criticize their relationship, criticize their partner, or generally make them feel like they're in a doomed relationship. This will make the person angry, defensive, and more determined than ever to get things done. No one wants to admit failure, especially not in a relationship, so you have to expect the person to naturally admit their problem on their own.

You can start by simply letting the person talk about their relationship. Ask innocent questions. For example, if you know her band was playing at a local event the night before, but her boyfriend didn't show up, innocently ask him if he liked his show.

Or just ask questions about how her night went. If she seems a little upset, just say, "How was your weekend?" and wait for her to tell you the rest.

Ask: “How are you feeling? » Stick to general questions that encourage the person to keep talking and show the cracks in their relationship.

Unfortunately, you can try to break up a couple who are in a really good relationship, which would make it difficult for the person to reveal anything negative. But if you've managed to become that person's confidante, the relationship is unlikely to be in great shape.

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Play devil's advocate. Once the person starts revealing the flaws in their relationship and all the issues they have with their partner, the worst thing you can do is agree or say, "You deserve a lot better than that. ". This will trick the person into thinking you have ulterior motives. Instead, stay withdrawn or confused, which will force the person to talk longer and explain why they're really unhappy and why their partner isn't perfect.

If the person is forced to dwell on their frustration and you let them talk, then they will notice the problems even more.

Just let the person talk whenever something negative happens to them. Asking her about her thoughts will make her explore more.

Not criticizing her relationship will also make things better in the long run. If you end up together, no one will be able to tell her that you sabotaged her previous relationship.

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Make the breakup inevitable

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Be the one the person you love is looking for a relationship. Without completely changing your personality, you can try to be the person the person you love is looking for in a relationship. If she complains that her boyfriend never asks her about her feelings, be sure to ask. If she wants her boyfriend to share her interests more, go hiking or hang out at the new vegan cafe she loves.

It's not as manipulative as it sounds. If you want to be with this person for a good reason, then you should be a good partner for them, right?

Don't make a big deal out of it. If she complains that her boyfriend never pleases her, bring her lunch or coffee when she has a busy day at work.

Don't go too far. Doing these things and being a good person to the person you love will naturally put you in the role of the girlfriend or girlfriend, but don't go overboard, like giving him flowers or telling him how handsome he is.

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Be more present. That doesn't mean you should be the person's boot or their dog. It just means that slowly you should start hanging around a bit more...and then a lot more. Offer to take her somewhere and offer her an innocent game of tennis until you become part of her daily routine. Make sure it doesn't become obsessive and that the person you're interested in wants you too.

Don't be too "addicted". This person needs to see that you have your own life, beyond the fact that you are trying to break up their relationship.

Having you more present will help her get a sense of what a relationship with you would be like. This should make her feel good and help her develop feelings for you.

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Exploit the weaknesses of the couple. Every couple has their own weaknesses. Let's say they're the type of person who tends to get into a fight when they go to parties where the booze is flowing: perfect, invite them to your next party. Let's say the wife of the object of your affection spends too much money: tell her about this new gadget she can't live without. Let's say you love a guy whose girlfriend is too obsessed with his appearance: take her shopping.

Once you've located everything wrong with the relationship, and there can be many, many things, you're going to be able to make it all that much worse. Turn that little crack into a gaping hole until they can't help but fall in.

If one person in the relationship wants to get married and the other is reluctant, find a way to bring the subject of marriage to the table. Talk about your parents' birthday, invite them to an engagement party, even send them a catalog of diamond rings in the mail.

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Try to separate the members of the couple. Nothing will make a couple lose interest faster than having a good time apart. Invite the girlfriend of the one you're interested in to a girls' night out, or better yet, introduce her to a guy she'll get along with wonderfully. Do what you can to keep them apart as much as possible, make sure they really enjoy what they're doing when they're apart.

Be discreet about it. Just suggest a few activities that will naturally keep them apart from time to time.

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Put the friends of the person you want to be with in your pocket. If you really think the person you love is in a terrible relationship and would be better off with you, then chances are their friends think the same. If so, then you should be friendly with their friends without overdoing it, while making them think you're a cool person. This can lead them to ask the person you're interested in, "Why are you still with that draw?" Why don't you go with x instead? »

When you go out with his friends, don't get too attached to this person. Don't make them think you're dating them for her. Just point out to them that you'd make a cute couple.

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Don't be needy. There's a difference between becoming a close friend and being available and acting like you want to spend all your time with the person you love, despite their relationship. Don't try to ask her out when you know the couple is planning on spending time together. This will make the person you love suspicious that you might be clingy and needy if you were together and no one wants that.

You can make yourself available without texting or calling the person you love every five minutes. Set your trap and wait for her to come to you.

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Make the person you love jealous. She will realize what she might miss if she sees you with someone else. This doesn't mean you have to use someone to make her jealous, just spend more time with a close friend of the opposite sex or go on a few harmless dates and make her a report on this. You will be surprised by how quickly you will be perceived in a new light and how quickly the situation will change. It's good to remind that person that you won't be there forever.

This will make the person think, “Oh no! This beautiful friend I have may have been stolen... But wait, why do I care? Would I have feelings for her? »

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React appropriately when breaking up. Unless it's very obvious that the person is ending their relationship for you , you shouldn't immediately melt down and start trying to date that person. Instead, you should be a good friend, a sympathetic listener, and just a shoulder to cry on while she deals with the sadness that naturally comes with any breakup, even if it were to happen.

Tell him/her you're there if he/she wants to talk and you can't imagine what he/she is going through.

However, don't belittle the other person. Calling her ex a jerk right after the breakup will piss her off.

Know what might cheer the person up. Get him a silly stuffed animal or take him to a comedy. Just don't do anything too romantic yet.

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Make the new relationship last

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Don't jump into the relationship right away. If you've waited months (or more!) for the relationship to finally end and you can be with the person you love, that doesn't mean you have to move in with him right away, sleep with him right away, introduce the person of your dreams to your parents and your fifty closest friends. Instead, give it time. Even if you decided to date immediately, don't spend every moment of the day together, just see the person once or twice a week, give them time to heal.

The best thing to do is to give the person time to heal and not date them at all until they are ready. But if the feelings are serious, that's easier said than done.

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Avoid talking about the ex as much as possible at first. Although you and your new boyfriend or girlfriend spend most of your time dissecting their previous relationship, now is not the time to dwell. While you shouldn't pretend the person's ex doesn't exist, you should avoid talking about them or asking questions about them until the person has had enough space. which could take months or even more than a year.

Of course, if the person really wants to talk about their past relationship, you shouldn't change the subject. But you can say what you think, in order to focus on your new relationship, you should leave the past behind as much as possible until you have a stronger foundation.

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Enjoy your new relationship as such. Don't get stuck in the past and worry so much about being the perfect fit for your new partner, just be yourself. If you're truly meant to be together, then you'll find a routine that works for you and you'll find a path to true happiness. Don't compare yourself to the ex, try to be the opposite of the ex, or try to be something you're not.

Sure, you might have used underhanded tactics to build your new relationship, but if you want it to last, you should only think about the two of you and nothing else.

Even if you had a deep friendship before, you should find new things to do for you as a couple that could define you as an element and not make you think of the past.

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Don't be paranoid about the past or it won't last. You may find yourself in a difficult position. Your new love has broken up with an ex for you: who's to say it won't happen again if he finds a person who matches him even better than you? Well, nobody can promise that it won't happen, but to keep your mind sane and have an amazing relationship, you should tell yourself that the previous breakup had to happen and that you really are the one for it. other. It won't happen again.

If you always ask what the ex is up to or get jealous when the person hangs out with people of the opposite sex, you'll be dooming your relationship to failure.

If your relationship is really meant to last, then over time you'll find that you'll stop caring about the ex or the previous relationship. But it could take months or even years. But if you're meant to be together forever, burying the past will be worth it.

Advice

It is important that we do not know that you were the one who divided or else we will resent you and we will be suspicious of you.

If a relationship is already falling apart, it will fall apart without any help. Therefore, you might not have to do anything.

You must date one of them (never the other). Make sure you always mute their conversations! Never let them talk to each other alone. Always message one of them so they won't be able to talk to the other.

If you want to date one of them, give them time to recover if they've been left behind. Chances are, if he just broke up, he knows it's because of you.

If you are friends with the couple you want to break up, you will need to start a hidden relationship.

Warnings

Be careful not to find yourself in the middle of a lovers' quarrel.

If you go to the last step, be careful that nobody finds out, don't get caught.

It's extremely difficult to break up a newly formed couple, as they are still in the honeymoon phase.

All of this can be considered immoral.

If he (she) leaves his (her) boyfriend(e) for you, it is very likely that he will leave you for someone else...