Always listen and consider their point of view before giving advice.

How to be friends with a girl

 

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Relationships can be confusing, even more so when it comes to friendship with the opposite sex. If you're a boy, you should keep in mind that men and women are different, and sometimes they value different things. Generally, women show an increased interest in emotional sharing and they tend to express their emotions to their close friends  [1] . That's why if you want to get along really well with a girl, you might not have to take the same approach as if you want to befriend a guy.

 

 

 

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Be the best friend of a girl you know

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Find and share common interests. Doing activities with the girl in question will improve your relationship with her  [2] . When you have a good time with a girl, she tends to remember the experience. Usually, friendships are born from the common interests that two people share. This is the reason why you must have common interests with the girl in question before becoming good friends.

One way to avoid sending mixed signals to the girl is to tell her how much the activities you are going to do together will be. This lets her know your intentions clearly, which is to hang out with friends and not as a couple.

You can go to a restaurant to eat, go to an amusement park, attend another friend's birthday party, take a drawing class, go surfing or do something you both enjoy.

If you have nothing to do, you can always stay home and watch movies.

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Have sincere discussions and be sensitive. As humans, we bond through conversations, especially if the topic of conversation is really close to our hearts.  [3] . The more conversations you have about your lives, the more connected you will feel. Being sensitive means listening to another's fears and emotions and being willing to do the same.

If she comes to you with a problem, don't make negative comments. The last thing a girl wants to hear is telling him she did something wrong when she knows it.

Always listen and consider their point of view before giving advice.

Asking a girl for advice builds more trust, which will make her more likely to approach you for advice too.

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Compliment her, but not romantically. People feel valued and motivated when they receive compliments  [4] . You should always compliment a girl when she does something you admire. However, you shouldn't just compliment a girl on her looks, as it can make her feel uncomfortable if you're just friends. Instead, take a cue from the compliments she gives you. If you've never broached the subject of your appearance, it's best not to talk about your physique.

Refrain from saying things like "you look good" or other things in general about her appearance.

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Strengthen friendships

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Keep in touch with her. Over time, it can be harder to maintain a solid relationship with a girl friend, so try texting or calling her. If you live in the same neighborhood, try inviting her to parties and social gatherings. Remembering a friend's birthday is also another good excuse to call and invite her.

If she moves to another part of the country, try to keep in touch with her through social media.

If she's busy, go to her house. Help him out if you have free time. She will thank you.

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Go out with her when she invites you somewhere. The more you accept her invitations, the more she will invite you to her next outings. This is especially important if your friend has an event she really doesn't want to go to and needs company.

If you're busy and can't go with her, be sure to let her know so she can find someone else to go with.

If you don't want to go anywhere, don't. Your negative energy is likely to further deteriorate your friendship.

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Give her the emotional support she needs. Many people go through ups and downs and most of them need emotional support during these difficult times  [5] .

Being a good friend also means knowing when to stop and let the other cry. However, be careful not to overdo it.

You should give him your emotional support in stressful times as well as in happy times (before a show or a sporting event).

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Avoid any sexual or romantic act if she doesn't want to. One of the easiest ways to destroy a friendship with the opposite sex is to experience sexual or romantic attraction when the other partner doesn't want it. Not only could this make your friend uncomfortable, but it could also make her sad, because she cares about you as a friend and not as a lover. A friendship can become a romantic relationship, but that only happens when both people involved want it to.

If you start to have feelings for your friend, you should tell her. But beware, as this can damage your long-term friendship.

If she wants to be romantic with you and you're fine with that, go for it. The best relationships are born of friendship.

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Meet new girls

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Go to parties where there will be girls. Try to attend social gatherings where there will be girls you'd like to befriend. Be on the lookout for popular events in your neighborhood or city and be prepared to meet someone there. If possible, try to take a course that interests you (eg a drawing course) or join an internal sports club. It's easy to meet new people, just go to places where there will be people.

If opportunities to socialize are limited, try to be creative. You can meet girls at the grocery store, at church, at the gym, or at the mall.

If you're in school, you'll be more likely to meet new girls in your class. Approach them before or after class.

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Introduce yourself to the girl you want to befriend. Tell him your name and ask him his name. Start small discussions on your daily newspapers.

If you're afraid to approach new people, the only way to feel less anxious is to give it a shot. The worst thing that can happen to you is that the person doesn't want to talk to you.

Here are some great questions you could ask: “This place is great fun. Do you like it? or "That class was so boring!" What do you think ? »

Try to sound confident, but not arrogant. Just talk to a girl like you're talking to a good friend, but in a more polite way.

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Find and share common interests. Chances are, the girl you want to befriend has something in common with you. For example, if you meet a girl in a gym, it is very likely that she is interested in sports, or if you meet a girl in an art class, it is very likely that she is interested to art, and so on. Try to find a common thread or something you know about and enjoy discussing.

Try to be funny and in a good mood when chatting with a girl. If you can make her laugh, she's more likely to want to be your  friend .

Listen to her carefully and let her speak. The more questions you ask her, the more she'll confide in you and the more comfortable she'll feel. You should respond to him and express your opinion, but you should also strive to be a good listener.

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Get his contact information. Once you think you've had a good conversation with the girl you just met, don't forget to ask her for her phone number. Don't be afraid to do this, especially if the discussion went pretty well. Tell her it was a pleasure to chat with her and ask her if she would like to have a chat with you again. If she accepts, exchange your phone numbers.

If the conversation went badly, you have very little chance of getting his number.

If you don't know when you'll be leaving, you can ask him before the conversation ends.

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Message him for an outing. Choose an activity to do together and ask her if she would like to join you. It could be lunch, rock climbing or a concert. If you're having trouble deciding, try to remember your past conversations and choose an activity that interests you both. Avoid romantic dating, don't flirt in your messages, and don't send mixed signals. You can even tell her you're not going to ask her out on a date (yet).

Don't text her too much if she doesn't reply. Maybe she's busy or just doesn't want to talk. Don't make her feel like she desperately needs friends and don't make her angry.

You can also send funny or interesting images to each other through your SMS.

Try to be as pleasant as possible in your messages. Since she can't hear your voice, you shouldn't be sarcastic, as she might understand your messages strictly  [7] .

If she texts you a lot, try to reply to the messages, and text her the same number of times as she does.